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No matter if you're a teenager or an adult, choosing adoption can be a difficult choice to make. One of the next hardest decisions you'll need to make is choosing the adoptive family with which to place your child. Even if you're still exploring your options and haven't yet decided to place, it can still be helpful to narrow down what you're looking for in an adoptive family. If at any time you start to feel overwhelmed with this difficult process, take a break and then continue to move forward one step at a time.
The easiest way to find the right adoptive family for your child is to compile a list of attributes--both physical and personality--based-that you're looking for. If you need help coming up with some, take a look at the small list below.
All of these may be very important to you. Don't feel hesitant if you want to specify an ethnicity or religious affiliation. If having your child grow up in a home where s/he looks like others in the home, there is nothing wrong with that. If you are of a certain faith, or appreciate and respect a different faith, it's perfectly acceptable to dictate your preferences.
Once you have compiled your list of preferred attributes, skills, and beliefs, it's time to prioritize them. While you may be able to find one match with everything on your list, chances are you'll have to compromise on some of them. So, in order to be prepared, rearrange your list in order of importance. Mark the ones that you won't budge on. And then mark the ones that you'd like, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker if the adoptive family didn't have a certain item on the list.
Now that you're organized, it's time to start your search. First, reach out to your friends and family members. They may know someone who is hoping to adopt that will be a good match for you and your baby. Once you've done that, you can begin searching online. You can search through hundreds of sites that showcase profiles of hopeful adoptive parents. Make sure the sites you use are free and keep your information private. The third thing you can do to find the perfect adoptive family is to use an adoption agency or other type of adoption professional.
A word of caution, however--before you begin working with a professional or an agency, thoroughly research them. Because adoption is a sensitive subject and experience, it can be easy for others to take advantage of the emotions that naturally accompany such a decision. So, it's best to protect yourself. Work with someone who will be your advocate, watch out for you. Just because you're considering placing your baby with an adoptive family doesn't mean you can't be selective. This decision was about doing what's best for the baby, right? So why would you settle now?
You may find the right family tomorrow or you might come across them a few months from now. No matter how long you search, know that you can make the tough decisions while putting your parental rights to good use. If someone tries to force or pressure you into a decision, walk away from them and never work with them again. This is your decision; remember that. You need to feel good and confident about your decision. Otherwise, it may be harder to emotionally heal and move forward. Protect yourself and your baby by starting on your plan of finding the right adoptive family, but do it on your own terms.
The information and links displayed above relate to profile posting services provided on the ParentProfiles.com web site, which is a service of Adoption Profiles, L.L.C., who sponsors this section and is solely responsible for its content.
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