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Some children are placed for adoption after traumatic experiences. Some may have experienced abuse, tragic loss of a loved one, or simply being taken from the only home they knew. All of these experiences--and so many more--can then later present themselves through night terrors. Night terrors are much more than just the average nightmare. Night terrors, also called sleep terrors, are an extreme, yet expected, reaction to fear and emotional or physical pain from past experiences. If your child was in a car accident, for instance, in which a parent died in front of him/her, your child's night terror could be a reaction to that horrific memory. And it happens during sleep, so it can be difficult to comfort your child, as s/he will be disoriented and sometimes still asleep.
If you're unsure how to differentiate between a common nightmare and a night terror, here is a list of tell-tale signs to look for:
As a parent, you'll undoubtedly wake up when your child experiences a night terror. There will be a lot of noise and screaming. When you go to check on your scared child, s/he may not recognize you, as s/he will probably be sleeping still. When a night terror hits, you won't be able to comfort your child as you normally would. Sometimes you'll feel that all your efforts are in vain. But there are some things you can do to calm the situation and make for a less terrifying experience, for both you and your child.
While night terrors may become a common experience in your home, it can be dealt with appropriately. The most important thing you can do is to be understanding, empathetic, and loving. Getting over night terrors is a process; it won't happen right away. Be patient. It will be a learning experience for everyone, but it also has the ability to make your family one stronger, tighter, more loving unit.
I was anything but excited my when my phone beeped to tell me I had a text message. It’s not that I didn’t like getting text messages from my wife- to the contrary. In fact, I was really looking forward to hearing updates about what was going on at the hospital, but her message rattled me a little bit.[more]
This week I found out a few things about moms with Reactive Attachment Disorder kids. First, they have a sense of humor and call their kids Radishes–so cute and so perfect. [more]
As a parent, it's important that you're on the same page as your partner or spouse, especially when it comes to discipline. Take some time and thoroughly discuss your beliefs and the basic rules of the household. That way, there won't be confusion when it's time to implement these rules.
"I was adopted at 8 months old by a wonderful family who are my only mother and father. It's very easy to make a child, but much harder to sacrifice and give your life to the happiness of your family. I couldn't ask for a better family. With that being said, I still wondered and looked for a while for my bith parents. I just want to know where I come from and who I look like. I dont want anything from them; I would just like to see them. I guess it leaves a little hole in your soul, but I know I have been blessed." - MJM
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