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One important aspect and responsibility of being a foster parent is to create and maintain a safe home environment. Some, if not many, of your foster children will have experienced one or many traumatic events. These could range from living in a violent or tough home or neighborhood, losing a parent, or being separated from a sibling. No matter the exact nature of your foster children's pasts, your home can be a safe haven for them. Having a home environment that is safe and non-judgmental can even improve behavior problems and help your foster children feel at ease. In order to create such an environment, there are a few necessary components.
No Bullying Zone - Your foster children have to deal with a lot every day. They may be bullied, teased, or even ostracized in their school, neighborhood, or even among their friends. Your home should be a sanctuary. No bullying or name-calling should be allowed. Your foster children should feel that your home is a safe place in which they can be themselves without being tormented for it.
Be Open to Discussion - Sometimes, everyone just needs to talk. It may be about how their day went or which movies they want to see, or it could be about their pasts and what they're feeling. Be open to discussion, in all its forms. This can help create strong, stable, and trustworthy bonds. When your foster children know they can come to you and talk about anything, they'll feel safe, respected, and loved.
Have a Schedule - Children need structure. It can make them feel safe because they know what to expect and they know what is expected of them. Make a set time for meals, homework time, family time, and so on. It's OK to make exceptions, but for the most part, stick to your schedule so your home feels stable and predictable to your foster children.
Remain Calm - If you can remain calm, even in emotionally heightened situations, your foster children will be better able to do the same. Even if you feel you're at the end of your rope, remain calm. If you have to go into another room and finish the discussion later, do it. It's better to be emotionally level when discussing important things.
Emergency Plans - Depending on the pasts of your foster children, they may have some anxiety when it comes to unpredictable events. Setting up emergency plans for your home and other locations can be a great way to calm those nerves. Map out what to do if there's a fire, if a bully picks on them, how to inform adults of abuse or misbehavior, and how to contact authorities in the case of an emergency.
These simple efforts can go a long way to making your foster children and everyone in your household feel safe, comfortable, and calm. Everyone deserves to have a safe place to call home. You can provide that to children in need. You can be their safety and their refuge. It's a big responsibility, but it's also a great honor.
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