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As a foster parent, you know how your foster children can be mixed bags of emotions, needs, and personal experiences. Because of this, your foster children may act out or have a difficult time following the rules of your household. And perhaps the hardest part of it all is that the behavior can be so unpredictable. Some days, your foster children may not have any issues with the rules. Other days, they will revolt with everything in them. But one great way to teach and reinforce proper behavior is through consistency. And here are a few things to keep in mind as you progress:
Respond Quickly - If your foster children misbehave, it's important that you respond quickly. This doesn't mean that you should react in the heat of the moment. It means respond while the situation is still fresh on both your minds so you both can end up on the same page. Whether you need to discipline, remind, or just have a chat about an issue, do it in a timely manner.
Listen to Their Concerns - One important aspect of teaching through consistency is to listen to your foster children's concerns or explanations for improper behavior. The old adage is true--there are two sides to every story. Help them to feel heard and understood. This can help improve behavior and help your foster children feel more at home within your family.
Encourage Honesty - Be honest with how certain behaviors make you feel and let them share their honest thoughts and opinions, too. Allow your home to be open to honest discussion, but make sure to acknowledge when a discussion has turned into an unproductive argument.
Identify Appropriate Discipline - Not every form of discipline will be effective for each of your foster children. So, you may have to tailor a punishment or consequence for each child. However, make sure the discipline is appropriate in general and appropriate for the degree of misbehavior.
Stay Positive - While it can be easy to focus on the negative behavior from your foster children, it's essential that you also pay attention to the positive behavior. Congratulate them for achievements. Thank them for help around the house. Acknowledge their good work. Staying positive can help your foster children feel safe, loved, and valued.
Be an Example - One of the best and most effective ways to encourage proper behavior is to be an example of that behavior. It will never work if your foster children see you doing the opposite of what you're telling them. Be consistent and be involved.
Teaching your foster children proper and acceptable behavior through consistency will require a lot of work, but the results will be worth it. Children of all ages need consistency. That produces an environment for learning and learning retention, and it will also create a more positive and streamlined home environment.
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