Adoption Week e-Magazine Article

Anonymous

I have thought over and over so many times that I wanted to share my story about an adoption with others, but I have been so afraid. I am so hurt and shy about things like this because all of my life I have been judged by my past experiences.

Besides the adoption I am sharing with you below, I also have 3 other children, (all boys), that were given up for adoption. I have not found them, and they have not looked for me either that I am aware.

I am hoping by sharing my story and getting replies and prayers from others that have shared adoption and reunions that I can get through the hurt I am feeling now.

When I was 13, I met a very special guy in high school. We continued to get to know each other the best we could with the things we were handed in life. Well, I got pregnant and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, I was told, in November 1975 when I was 15. I was never allowed to see my baby. They took her from my womb and disappeared with her immediately.

Her biological father and I tried our best to stay in touch, but his family and mine especially wanted nothing to do with us staying in touch. I was lied to by my family that my sweetheart did not want me. Anyway, I ran away from home and started out on my own at the young age of 16. I ran from Illinois to Texas and just tried my best to stay alive. I was just a young girl and felt like no one wanted me or cared about me any longer.

Well, to make a long story shorter, my adopted daughter we gave up for adoption 28 years ago found her biological father last Sept / Oct 2003. They both in turn found me in Nov 2003. I met my daughter for the first time last Dec 2003, and we have stayed in contact off and on since. Well now her biological father and I have reunited. We met for the 1st time again in June 2004. He is now going to move here where I live, and we are going to start to get to know each other again and have plans to marry. He has always been a part of me and has always been in my heart, mind and soul. He is my world, I feel.

Anyway, now that he and I are getting back together, our daughter wants nothing to do with either of us. She says her father is a loser, a fake and she does not like him. She says she has always wondered about me, but was never truly concerned if she ever found her father or not, just her biological mother. I am very hurt that she would turn her back on us like that, especially after she only met her father once for maybe an hour tops and me for about 4 hours at our first meeting. If anyone has any advice or any suggestions on how I could maybe approach her and we could possibly all become one again, I would greatly appreciate any feedback.

Also, her adoptive parents do not know she has contacted her father or I. They told her we gave up our rights 28 years ago and we have no right to her now. So she has never told them she has been in contact and/or seen us both.

We both love her so very much and her family. She has a husband and 2 beautiful boys that she has shared pictures of them with us.

Thank you.