Adoption Week e-Magazine Article
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Do Not Give Up Hope!
Beth
To all the adoptees out there searching for answers: do not give up hope that someday you will find the answers and achieve that inner peace that only those answers can provide. It may sometimes seem an insurmountable task and emotionally draining as you run into roadblocks but remember to take a moment to recognize those that do help you and find compassion for your situation. I am a 38-year-old adoptee without a success story.
My birth mother has been contacted thru a third party which showed far more compassion than she, and after the third letter to her, she responded.
In summary, she responded that it would complicate her life to have contact at this time - now 4 years ago - and enjoy the life she gave me. She also finally provided me with my father's full name and last known address and the explanation that she felt that she was protecting me from him. His name is on my birth certificate which was not required in 1967, which the third party agency confirmed, although they cannot search for birth fathers.
My whole life, I have known deep down that I was like my birth father, which my birth mother confirmed, and this is what keeps me searching. My birth father's name is Salvatore John Sorce, dob is 6/23/1940. He divorced from Jacqueline Wagner in 1995. He lived in Milwaukee, WI for most of this time, as far as I know, but as of December 2000 when he was evicted, it is as if he vanished. He is not on the Soc. Sec. Death index so I still have hope that it is not too late.
Along the way I have hit roadblocks, but I have also spoken to people that are compassionate and have done their best to help knowing that "protection" is not what we need to make our lives complete.
Keep searching no matter how hard it is. In the end, even if it is not a happy ending, you will find that peace you are longing for, personal growth, and maybe make an impact on one or two people along the way. Most of all, DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE!
