Adoption Week e-Magazine
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June 24, 2003

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IN THIS ISSUE
1.   ANNOUNCEMENT:
     - Featuring new job openings
     - New website dedicated to adoption stories
     - Humorous adoption stories?
     - Good adoption quotes 
2.   NEW ARTICLES
3.   ADOPTION NEWS
4.   ADOPTION BOOK CLUB - adoption book review
5.   MEET NEW HOPEFUL ADOPTIVE PARENTS
6.   FEATURED WAITING CHILD
7.   ADOPTION BUZZ - recent message board discussions
8.   ADOPTION GEM - inspirational thought
9.   ADOPTION SITE SPOTLIGHT
10.  ADOPTION DESTINATIONS - international adoption
11.  JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT - clean weekly humor
12.  FEATURED ADOPTION PROFESSIONAL
13.  ADOPTIONSHOP.COM PICK - review of an adoption product
14.  SOUND COUNSEL - question and answer/advice column 
15.  SPEAK OUT - contributions from our readers
16.  JOB OPENINGS 
17.  ADOPTION ONLINE GROUP REVIEW
18.  ADOPTION POETRY
19.  ADOPTION CALENDAR - adoption events, seminars, & chats
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1. ANNOUNCEMENT

FEATURING NEW JOB OPENINGS
If you have been job hunting and have not found anything that suits you yet, this week's issue of Adoption Week may very well end your search. In section 16, there are three job postings for anyone interested in working in the adoption field. If you are a stay-at-home mom and looking for work you can do from home, the content specialist position may be just right for you. Check it out!

NEW WEBSITE DEDICATED TO ADOPTION STORIES
Adoption.com is preparing to launch a new website dedicated to adoption stories. If you have an adoption-related story you would like to share, we are inviting you to do so. Entries may be submitted to editor@adoptionmedia.com.

HUMOROUS ADOPTION STORIES?
Knowing kids say and do the cutest things, we would like you to share your humorous story or experience. E-mail your humorous story or joke to editor@adoptionmedia.com.

GOOD ADOPTION QUOTES
Have you heard or read a quote you would like to share? You are welcome to send it to editor@adoptionmedia.com.

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2. NEW ARTICLES

The views expressed by the authors are solely their own, and for which the authors are responsible. These views do not necessarily represent the views of Adoption Week e-Magazine.

Returning To China With Your Adopted Child...Part 1 - new article by Dr. Jane A. Liedtke
We must create a focus for our children that will help them embrace culture and accept differences as being ok. If you can model for the child intercultural understanding and create opportunities for your child to experience different cultures then they will accept differences and learn to adapt to them. They may even decide they don’t like something but it will be based on their experience and an understanding versus through your filters. http://e-magazine.adoption.com/article.php?articleid=287

Miracle At The Bucharest Embassy - new article by Steve and Michelle Freiman
With our Foundation Representative and Adoption Agency Translator/Facilitator, we entered the embassy grounds through a wrought iron side gate that was guarded by Romanian soldiers. The soldiers were dressed in battle fatigues, special service berets, black shiny combat boots, and carried the standard AK-47 assault rifles. We all presented our papers and were passed into the compound. The soldiers were all smiles, which surprised me, and they made a fuss over our new daughter. The soldiers were also so young. Our translator told us that by the berets they were wearing, these soldiers were just out of basic training and actually belonged to the Air Force. http://e-magazine.adoption.com/article.php?articleid=288

Read these articles or contribute an article at http://e-magazine.adoption.com.

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3. ADOPTION NEWS

And Sister Makes Three: Story Leads Reunited Sisters to Another Sibling (WA)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.thedailyworld.com/daily/2003/Jun-16-Mon-2003/news/news2.html

Children Increase, but Foster Parents are Fewer (NJ)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.signonsandiego.com/news/uniontrib/mon/news/news_1n16foster.html

'God Has Replied' to Area Couple's Prayers (WA)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.observer-reporter.com/287560621291768.bsp

Father Glad He Took the Chance on Adoption (NH)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.cmonitor.com/stories/news/state2003/nh__adoption_2003.shtml

If any of the links to the news articles do not work, visit http://www.adoption.com/news for a list of headlines.

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4. ADOPTION BOOK CLUB

PARENTS' GUIDE TO THE SPIRITUAL GROWTH OF CHILDREN
Parents' Guide to the Spiritual Growth of Children has been created to help you take on the privilege of passing on your spiritual heritage to your children. This book contains nearly 500 pages including everything you'll need to develop a highly customized plan targeting the unique mix of ages, personalities, and challenges found in your. This guide contains a wealth of information and coaching -- all intended to shout to eager but hesitant parents, "You can do it!"

For more information on this book, visit http://adoptionshop.com/cgi-bin/products/ADP00039.html.

Find 7,000+ other adoption products at AdoptionShop.com.

To share your favorite adoption book with others, join the Adoption Book Club on AdoptionLists.com at http://adoptionlists.com/index.php?action=lists&listname=adoptionbookclub.

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5. MEET NEW HOPEFUL ADOPTIVE PARENTS

Outdated material has been removed. Please visit ParentProfiles.com.

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Adoption is music to our ears...now it can be for you, too.




Adoption.com's new adoption CD, "Adoption...The Songs You Love", is dedicated to everyone who has been touched by adoption in one way or another. ORDER YOUR CD! http://adoptionshop.com/cgi-bin/products/ADP00022.html




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6. FEATURED WAITING CHILD

Ashley is beautiful and adorable with cherubic features. Ashley is very bright, affectionate and engaging. Weekly therapy is helping Ashley address issues of separation, loss and past trauma. She currently receives special education services in a self contained classroom. An ideal adoptive family would consist of parents without other children in the home, or with an older adolescent girl. Ideal adoptive parents would have therapeutic training, knowledge about Reactive Attachment Disorder and experience parenting emotionally disabled children. Ideal adoptive parents would sometimes supervise Ashley's periodic visitation with her eleven year old biological sister and twelve year old biological brother, in separate relative placements in Tucson.


http://photolisting.adoption.com is a free community service of Adoption.com featuring more than 1,800 children awaiting loving, permanent homes.

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7. ADOPTION BUZZ

International Adoption: - Adopting from Cambodia
http://www.adoptionforums.com/t106576.html

Foster Child Adoption Support: - New to Adopting! Adopting from the System?
http://www.adoptionforums.com/t106851.html

School-Age Children: - Summer is Coming...How Do You Keep Your Kids Active?
http://www.adoptionforums.com/t104642.html

Support for Birth Mothers Who are Awaiting Their First Contact: - We Found My Daughter! 11-30-68 Seattle, Wa.
http://www.adoptionforums.com/t106609.html

If any of the links above do not work, visit Adoption.com for direct links to these discussions.

For more online adoption discussions, visit http://www.AdoptionForums.com.

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8. ADOPTION GEM

When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind, and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed.
The future is yet in your power. - Mary Pickford

See a daily adoption gem at http://www.Adoption.com.

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9. ADOPTION SITE SPOTLIGHT

This week, our adoption spotlight is shining on: AdoptionCards.com.

Sending a free virtual card at AdoptionCards.com is easy! Just follow the instructions outlined on the page. After you have completed the card, you will be shown a confirmation page and then a preview page where you can send your virtual card.

After a card is sent, the recipient will receive an e-mail with a hyperlink that can be clicked on to view the virtual card you sent.

For a list of our favorite adoption websites, visit http://adoptions.adoption.com.

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10. ADOPTION DESTINATIONS

InternationalAdoption.org is the internet's authoritative destination for international adoption. You will find fact sheets, adoption information, travel information, culture and heritage, maps, weather, books, currency exchange rates, periodicals, news and much more for dozens of different countries with active international adoption programs.

This week, the country of focus is Panama.

Panama is located in Central America, bordering both the Caribbean Sea and the North Pacific Ocean, between Colombia and Costa Rica. Many Panamanians are bilingual, speaking both Spanish (official language) and English.

To learn more about Panama's government, geography, and communication information, or its history, visit http://Panama.adoption.com/.

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11. JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT

"PRAY FOR ME!"

One Sunday in a Midwest city a young child was "acting up" during the morning worship hour. The parents did their best to maintain some sense of order in the pew but were losing the battle. Finally the father picked the little fellow up and walked sternly up the aisle on his way out. Just before reaching the safety of the foyer the little one called loudly to the congregation, "Pray for me! Pray for me!"

E-mail your humorous story or joke to editor@adoptionmedia.com.

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12. FEATURED ADOPTION PROFESSIONAL

Joseph N. Vader
108 E Poplar Dr.
Olathe, KS
Phone: (913) 764-5010
Contact: Paula

Has provided adoption legal services since 1964. Experience in representing adoptive parents and biological parents, as well as contested adoptions. Licensed in Kansas & Missouri

Services: • Adoption Attorneys • Stepparent Adoption

For map directionst to Joseph N. Vader's office, visit http://www.mapquest.com/maps/map.adp?countrycode=250&country=US&address=108%20E%20Poplar%20Dr.&city=Olathe&state=KS&zipcode=66051.

Find adoption agencies, attorneys and other adoption professionals at http://directory.adoption.com.

To see your ad here, visit http://adoptiondirectory.com/upgrade.php.

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13. ADOPTIONSHOP.COM PICK

Gotcha Charm with Customized Engraving - Only $34.00

Handcrafted, sterling silver, cast and custom designed charm. Gotcha Day is a term used by adoptive families to memorialize the day a child becomes a part of the family. Each charm is hand-cast (never die-cut) in sterling silver and hand-finished by experienced craft persons right here in the USA. Like the children we cherish, no two pieces (even of the same design) are exactly alike.


For more information and ordering instructions, visit http://adoptionshop.com/cgi-bin/products/AMC00031.html.

For more adoption products, visit http://adoptionshop.com.

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14. SOUND COUNSEL

This section is not intended for search advise. It is meant to be an advise column for people with questions concerning their feelings, interested in the opinion of someone who can relate.

Question:

My husband's daughter gave up her son at birth in a pre-arranged, private adoption. We all met the adoptive parents, and they were kind enough to send us baby pictures several months later. But they made it clear that they did not wish contact with their son's biological family; it seemed they felt a bit threatened by my husband's wish to hear every now and then how his grandson was doing. This child is about to turn 14, and I have recently found his and his parents' address. I would like to write a short note to the parents asking, on behalf of my husband, if they would share some photos with him. Even though he knows the adoption was the right solution for his daughter, he has so missed the opportunity to know this child, even from a distance. I don't want anyone to feel hurt, or threatened, but I hope the parents would be more willing to share news of their son now. Do you think it would be a bad idea for me to try to make contact? I haven't even told my husband I have the address; I don't want to upset him in case the response is negative.

Answer:

Yes, I think it would be a bad idea for you to try and make contact with them. It is important for you and your husband to know that it is the adopted parents' right as the legal guardians of that child to make the decision about who he/she has contact with. It is also within their legal rights to refuse contact with you and your husband. You could potentially open a large can of worms if you make contact with that family.

They may not understand where you and your husband are coming from on this issue. If you'll recall, there were many cases throughout the 70's and 80's where adopted parents were coming back and fighting in court to have their children returned to them, after an adoption was made final. Not only that, but they were winning, too. These children were being pulled from their adopted families and placed back with the biological parents, sometimes a few years after the fact. That situation is a very real fear, I believe, even to this day.

If I were you, I would throw away the information and not contact them yourself, or give it to your husband. I understand both of your needs and wants with regard to contacting your grandson, but please respect your daughter's choice and the choice of the adopted parents. When the child is of age he may want to search; however, that is his decision. At this time, his parents make his decisions, and you said yourself, "they made it clear".

I wish you and your husband the best.

DB

Question:

We have a 19-year-old adopted-at-birth son who has fairly often expressed an interest in searching for his birthparents/mother. We know more than he thinks we know, but not a lot. One thing for sure (trust me on KNOWING), as he was conceived as a result of a rape. He has always been happy-go-lucky, tenderhearted, somewhat naive, etc. I'd hate to see that spirit crushed, because his birth mother did NOT want to be found. He is focused on the starry- eyed reunions he's seen on TV, though I've always quietly reminded not everyone finds their bio family or has a happy reunion (and added details of possibilities - embarrassment at past being revealed, drugs, crime, abuse, bad memories...). My husband has always been against him ever being told by us.

Mom

Answer:

"Mom"

This is a tough situation. If it were me, I would want to know. You can't imagine what it's like to not know anything about where you came from (good or bad). While searching for my biological mother, I found out my biological father took off three months into the pregnancy. (They were both minors). It is slightly different, but similar as well in that I wasn't happy to hear about that. I had always grown up with thoughts of being reunited with both of my parents. That maybe, even though they were kids when I was conceived, they would still be together and I would have full brothers and sisters. When I found out he left her, that killed any hope of me ever finding him or ever having a full brother or sister.

What are you going to do if your son finds out on his own? When he finds out that you and your husband lied to him every time he asked if you knew anything more? When you let him go through his life without knowing the truth? He is surely going to begin searching on his own (whether you are aware of it or not), and there is a very real possibility that he will find out the truth. I am not trying to sound harsh, but reality can be sometimes harsh. You cannot protect your son from hurt and pain his whole life, or from the truth about where he comes from. I can understand as a parent how you would want to, but he needs to know. He is old enough to know. It is better than having him find out on his own, and resenting you and your husband for not telling him.

If you and your husband tell him the truth, then you can help him through it should he need help. If he finds out outside of you being honest with him, he will probably not want you to help. He will have to deal with the additional pain of being lied to his whole life by his parents - the only people he knew he could trust. That right there, would hurt me more than finding out I was a product of rape.

"Mom", I hope you listen to your heart and to what I have said. They will surely lead you in the right direction. Please, be honest with your children. It is the best thing you can do for them, and they will love and respect you for it - no matter what it is you are being truthful about.

DB

Below is a follow up to an e-mail I answered a month or so ago. I received this from one of our subscribers.

Original Question:

I am 18 years old and have decided to start looking for my birth parents. I was adopted from India. I have very limited resources about my birth history. And I don't want my adoptive mother to know I'm doing this, because it would hurt her too much. I know the International Mission of Hope was involved. But there is no longer an established Indian branch. What can I do?

MT

Follow Up Response:

MT:

I am please to be able to present the below information to you. One of our subscribers emailed this to me, and I wanted to include it for anyone else who may have been involved with the International Mission of Hope and could use this information.

International Mission of Hope has recently re-opened their work in India. The founder of International Mission of Hope, Cherie Clark, can be reached via e-mail at: cherieIMH@yahoo.com

Robin Brodeur
http://www.myvnkids.com
htpp://www.geocities.com/abbybrodeur

DB

To submit your questions, e-mail adoptionquestions2003@yahoo.com

In order for your questions/comments to be answered in the next week's issue, questions need to be submitted before 12 noon each Thursday.

In addition, please remember to keep your questions appropriate for Adoption Week e-Magazine; otherwise, they will not be answered or included in the next week's edition.


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15. SPEAK OUT

In response to A.V.: In the 70's, the only hospital in Skokie was Skokie Valley Hospital, but is now Rush North Shore Medical Center (http://www.rnsmc.org/). I grew up just blocks from there. I would think hospitals would have the records under the birthmother's name. I've heard of cases where records were falsified - like a female baby being written down as male, or the date of birth being off by one day, so keep an open mind in your search. Good luck. - J.T.

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Hello, my name is Misty, and I am searching for my aunt. She was born in FL. but it is believed she was adopted out of IN. Two of her sisters have had severe heart problems my mother being one of them. Her name at birth was Jonnie Christine Johnson. We have finally been reunited with the rest of the family after 40 years she is the only one left and I believe that she has the right to know. Can anyone give me any advise to help me find her. Thanks so much. - Misty Hufstedler (sup_98_1998@yahoo.com)

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Uganda is a country found in East Africa. Today it has over one million ophans due to AIDS epidemic. Uganda Pro Life Association is appealing to the international community to aid these needy ophans by maybe adopting one or two. If you need some assistance in acquiring information on adopting in Uganda, please contact us. Our website is http://www.prolifeuganda.com - Davis Costa Ssempuuma (prolifeuganda@hotmail.com)

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I was adopted in 1964. I have in the past month found my biological mothers family; she passed away 2 years ago. She seemed like a very nice person from everything they have told me. None of them ever knew that she had a baby. The Catholic Charities in Philadelphia are not very helpful with any information about the father. The father was a restaurant manager at Stouffers in the Philadelphia area. I was born 10/02/64 at Jefferson Hospital. I cannot get any information from Stouffers, since they have been sold twice. Any information would be helpful. - S.H.

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I'm helping some friends locate the son they gave up for adoption in 1967. They have written the hospital for copies of the medical records and when we get that, we will register with the Illinois Dept. of Vital Statistics Adoption Registry. Is there anything else we should do? What is the Daily Law Bulletin, and would that be helpful to us?

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I gave my daughter up for adoption and have never stopped thinking about her. I gave birth to her on Dec. 18, 1970 in Indianapolis, Indiana. You are always in my heart. - Mary. E-mail sabcholreemba@hotmail.com.

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I am Kelly Reilly. I was placed at 3 days with a loving and caring family in Idaho; however, I married an adoptee and had a child. With four unknown grandparents, I am seeking medical information and/or a meeting. My adoption was in Ada County in 1969. My mother's name was Debra Allsopp. She had my five siblings taken by the state while she was pregnant with me; there is one set of twins somewhere in the bunch. She had a 9th grade education in 1969. My mother was born in Soiux Falls, Iowa in February of 1940 and is 1/8th Cherokee. Unfornately, the Cherokee nation is unable to help locate her. My father is Thomas Milleaner, and he has seven children from his first marriage. He was born in 1932. He divorced his first wife in Missouri or Idaho. Then I was born. Like my mother, he did not graduate from high school.

My husband was the first child of a couple in Idaho Falls, Idaho. He was born Aug 14, 1968 either Grant Warren or Warren Grant. His dad was in the Navy with plans for law school. His mother was young and pretty with red hair and green eyes. He was placed through the State of Idaho with his family at 3 months. Please help us locate our parents and our child's grandparents. - kellyr@cableone.net

To Speak Out and share your opinion or a comment, or to respond to a message, e-mail editor@adoptionmedia.com.

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16. JOB OPENINGS

Are you looking for a job in the adoption/foster care field? If so, take a look at the following job announcements...

CONTENT SPECIALIST -- Adoption.com

Adoption.com is seeking three individuals who can assist with acquiring and editing articles for their library site from their homes. Interested individuals should have experience in navigating the Internet, database entry, and editing. Please email resumes and letters of introduction to lanae@adoptionmedia.com.

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PART-TIME CONTRACT EDITOR -- The Adoption and Child Welfare Law Reporter

Yes, we are hiring! The Adoption and Child Welfare Law Reporter is looking for a part-time contract editor (20 to 30 hours per month) for dynamic, cutting edge, digital legal publication. The applicant can reside anywhere in the world. Internet access required (preferably high speed). Knowledge of Adobe InDesign and InCopy a plus. Adoption and child welfare law experience beneficial but not required. Prior high quality editing experience is a necessity (law review or other professional published writing). Compensation is subject to discussion. Growth potential is huge. No benefits.

Send a resume and writing sample attached to an e-mail to JamesMarsh@i-LawPublishing.net. A cover letter is optional. No telephone calls please.

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RESEARCH DIRECTOR -- ABA Center on Children and the Law

The American Bar Association Center on Children and the Law seeks applicants for a full time social science research director in its Washington, D.C. office. The Center promotes the well being of America's children and youth through advances in law and policy. It is an interdisciplinary program, including a mix of lawyers, social scientists, and other professionals.

This individual will primarily work with a federally-supported project providing technical assistance and training to child welfare agencies and courts nationally, including designing, conducting and managing research and evaluation activities related to local court performance in child abuse and neglect proceedings, as well as address other topics on children and the law. Further responsibilities include writing up research findings for professional journals and Center publications, providing technical assistance on evaluating court performance and processes, selecting and managing personnel and subcontractors to help carry out research and evaluation activities, developing grant proposals, and supervising and consulting with other Center research and evaluation staff on various projects. A significant work focus will involve enhancing ability of courts to measure case outcomes and judicial workloads in child welfare proceedings.

Candidates should have a Ph.D., at least five years post doctoral experience in child welfare or court-related research, and demonstrated knowledge and experience in research and evaluation design and methodology, SPSS, data analysis, and grant development. Also required are solid writing and oral communications skills, computer literacy, supervisory experience, and project administration skills. Candidate must also be able to travel in support of position. Salary range anticipated in the mid to high $60s with excellent benefits. Please forward letter of application, with resume, to:

American Bar Association, Attn: HR-C939, 740 15th St. NW, Washington, DC 20005
Or fax to: (202) 662-1032
Or e-mail to: abajobsdc@abanet.org
Equal Opportunity Employer. M/F/D/V. No phone calls, please.

Looking for a job in the adoption industry? Are you an adoption company looking to add experienced employees to your team? AdoptionJobs.com is the best place on the internet for adoption companies and qualified job seekers to connect.

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17. ADOPTION ONLINE SUPPORT GROUP REVIEW

Here's a recent post from the Eastern European (Adoption) group:

Let see....how are we this week?

We continue to improve daily...the children have been home about 3 months now and the adjustments are amazing. Ella has dropped all of her Bulgarian in less than 3 months and is very easily understood by strangers as well as family. Pretty amazing for a 5-year-old I think...but then I am partial.

David started physical therapy and is doing wonderfully. He is two.

What I wanted to share was how our summer is going:

I have always required my kid to "help out" around the house but this year we are doing something a little different...there are more of us now! So each day of the week has a "theme" like "Dash and Splash" day. The kids are to clean their rooms, make their beds (daily) and make sure the den and kitchen table are clutter free. But if they get it done well and with a good attitude by 10 am, then we spend the entire rest of the day at the creek. That is every Tuesday. Each day of the week has a different theme.

It has been so much fun, and I really feel like it helps my new daughter feel even more like part of the family. It gives her a sense of belonging and ownership. She has started to see it as her home too.

Be blessed everyone!
Kimberly

To be part of this group, or one of 70+ other adoption-related online e- mail discussion groups, visit http://AdoptionLists.com, register, and join.

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18. ADOPTION POETRY

BORN FROM MY HEART
Dedicated to Nyalaree Veasna Hansen
by "Your Mother"

A Miracle given to me from above,
brought together through acts of love.
A beautiful baby born from my heart,
I loved you from the very start.

Your name they say means "destiny",
it is so true, it was meant to be.
I close my eyes, I try to imagine,
life without you, I just cannot fathom.

The women who love you, here are two,
one who gave you life, the other would die for you.
Now you are surrounded by so much love,
parents, siblings, and God from above.

Hand in hand, we will always be,
completing our own special family.
Your fingers are brown and mine are white,
intertwined together, it feels so right.

Some people may not understand you see,
blinded by their own lack of reality.
Only their loss, ignorance no part of us,
thoughts scarred by their own prejudice.

My children, my life, all a part of me,
born from my heart, where you'll always be.
Born from my heart, a birth like no other,
I am so blessed to be your mother.

My dream you grow up feeling complete,
smothered with love from everyone you meet.
And please remember if doubts come from another,
that you are my daughter, and I am your mother.

by Cynthia Hansen
I wrote this poem to my daughter, Nyalaree Veasna Hansen, after she came home to us from Cambodia in April of 2002.

For more adoption poetry, visit http://poetry.adoption.com.

Submit your adoption poetry to editor@adoptionmedia.com.

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19. ADOPTION CALENDAR

CHAT SCHEDULE:

Sunday:
Reunion Support Group Chat with Loretta in the Search and Reunion room at 6pm Pacific, 7pm Mountain, 8pm Central, 9pm Eastern

Monday:
Join Dr. Art Becker-Weidman in the hosted chat room at 2pm Pacific, 3pm Mountain, 4pm Central, 5pm Eastern and ask him questions on attachment therapy and treating children with trauma-attachment disorders.

Adoptee Chat with Thea in the hosted chat room at 6pm Pacific, 7pm Mountain, 8pm Central, 9pm Eastern. Thea is a caring adoptee that has recently reunited with her birthmother.

Tuesday:
Birth mom chat with Angelwings. Angel is a birthmom and adoptee. Her chat is held in the BirthMother.chat room at 4pm Pacific, 5pm Mountain, 6pm Central, 7pm Eastern

Birth father's General Support Chat in the hosted chat room with adoptee and birthfather, Terry. All are invited at 6pm Pacific, 7pm Mountain, 8pm central, 9pm Eastern

Attachment Disorder: A Journey of Hope Chat with Parent Nancy Geoghegan; educational weekly chat at 7pm Pacific, 8pm Mountain, 9pm Central, 10pm Eastern

Wednesday:
Pre- and adoptive parent chat with JJ and friends - Help as you begin the adoption process. Hosted in Adoptive Parents chat room at 5pm Pacific, 6pm Mountain, 7pm Central, 8pm Eastern.

Parenting issues for adoptive/foster parents with Dimasmom in FosterCare chat room at 6pm Pacific, 7pm Mountain, 8pm Central, 9pm Eastern.

Join an informative chat on the ups and downs of reunion hosted by Sabra since 1997. Talk out your next step and share your experiences in search and reunion at 7pm Pacific, 8pm Mountain, 9pm Central, 10pm Eastern in the Search and Reunion chat room.

Thursday:
Evening with Colleen Buckner, search expert, in Search and Reunion chat room at 6pm Pacific, 7pm Mountain, 8pm Central, 9pm Eastern.

Friday:
If you are having a "limbo" type experience with your reunion, come and talk it over with those who've "been there-done that" themselves. Join co-hosting birth mothers, April and Judy, in the Search and Reunion room on Fridays: 5pm Pacific, 6pm Mountain, 7pm Central, 8pm Eastern.

Saturday:
Older child adoption/foster care behavioral issues with Jerry in FosterCare chat room at 6pm Pacific, 7pm Mountain, 8pm Central, 9pm Eastern.

For a listing of times and descriptions and to attend scheduled chats, or join the live chat, visit http://forums.adoption.com/chat.

ADOPTION EVENTS:

LAKE COUNTY GENERAL MEETING ­ New Location
June 24 (7:30 ­ 9:00 pm)
Deepwood North Apartments, Rental Office/Community Room, 8100 Deepwood Blvd. (off Rt. 84) Mentor, Ohio. Follow signs to rental office.
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511, or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION SUPPORT MEETING
June 25 (7:00 ­ 8:30 pm)
Euclid Public Library, Erie Room, 631 E. 222nd. St., Euclid, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adoptive parents or prospective adoptive parents of internationally adopted children. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511, or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

WORKSHOP FOR PROSPECTIVE ADOPTIVE PARENTS CONSIDERING CHINA ADOPTION
June 28 (11:00 am - 1:00 pm)
Three Oaks Library, 3 North Elm St., Three Oaks, MI
Great Wall China Adoption
Free workshop for prospective adoptive parents and others seeking more information about adopting from China. Couples from ages 30 to 55 are eligible to adopt. A Great Wall China Adoption representative who has just completed her adoption will be presenting. For further information or to reserve a place at the workshop, please contact Kim Bakos at (269) 429-6292 or by e-mail at kimberbakos@yahoo.com.

BIRTHPARENT SUPPORT MEETING
July 2 (6:30 pm - 8:30 pm)
Adoption Network Cleveland, 1667 East 40th St. Suite B-1, Cleveland, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Birthparents who have placed a child for adoption. For more information contact us at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

ROCKY RIVER GENERAL MEETING
July 3 (7:30 pm - 9:30 pm)
West Shore Unitarian Church, 20401 Hilliard Blvd., Rocky River, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information contact us at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

18TH ANNUAL ARCHEOLOGY: Summer Intensives on Adoption and Complex Families
July 7 - 8 (Session I; 8:00 am - 4:00 pm)
July 9 (Session II; 8:00 am - 4:30 pm)
July 10 - 11 (Session III; 8:00 am - 3:00 pm and 8:00 am - 5:00 pm, respectively)
Provincetown, MA
Adoption Resource Center & Center For Family Connections
Session I: Advanced Clinical Intensives ; $400
Session II: The Community of Adoption; $200 for newcomers/$100 for repeat attendees
Session III: 2nd Annual International Adoption Video/Film Festival; $200 for both days/$150 for single day
Fee for Sessions I, II, and III = $725
Payment is non-refundable.
(Proceeds from the Video/Film Festival go to the Expressive Therapy Programs of CFFC)
The ARC Summer Intensives are based on Dr. Pavao's Normative Crisis framework, her years of clinical experience, and her consulting and training expertise. The workshops utilize family systems theory, which is the basis of Dr. Pavao's work. Systemic thinking is woven throughout the design of each workshop.
Register as soon as possible, there is limited space. Social Work and LMFT CEUs are available for an additional $35 per session. Limited scholarships are available (scholarships do not apply to the Video/Film Festival or CEUs). Check our website, http://www.Kinnect.org, for updates. Accommodation information and directions are available upon registration.

HEIGHTS AREA GENERAL MEETING
July 17 (7:30 pm - 9:30 pm)
Unity of Greater Cleveland, 3350 Warrensville Ctr Road, Shaker Heights, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information contact us at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION SUPPORT MEETING - Triggers for Adoption-Related Crisis
July 23 (7:00 pm - 8:30 pm)
Euclid Public Library, Erie Room, 631 E. 222nd. St., Euclid, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Speaker: Regina Kupecky
Who can attend: Adoptive parents or prospective adoptive parents of internationally adopted children. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information contact us at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

ADOPTION WORKSHOP FOR PARENTS- Attachment
July 24 (9:30 am - 12:30 pm)
Beech Brook, 3737 Lander Road, Pepper Pike, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Speaker: Regina Kupecky
RSVP: Free workshop. Foster parent training certificates and social work/counselor CEU's provided. Registration is required; please call 216-881-7511. Registration closes 3 days prior to workshop.

THE LIFELONG IMPACT OF ADOPTION
July 26 (1:00 - 4:00 pm)
Santa Monica College, 1900 Pico Blvd., Library Village #8, Santa Monica CA 90405
Lecture & discussion by Marlou Russell, Ph.D.
$30 per person
For more information, contact Marlou Russell, Ph.D. at (310) 829-1438, marlourussell@hotmail.com, or visit http://www.marlourussellphd.com
Marlou Russell, Ph.D. is a psychologist, adoptee, and author of Adoption Wisdom: A Guide to the Issues and Feelings of Adoption.
This class is for adult adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, those considering adoption, therapists, attorneys, the media, and anyone interested in the emotional and psychological aspects of adoption.

WORKSHOP FOR PROSPECTIVE ADOPTIVE PARENTS CONSIDERING CHINA ADOPTION
August 2 (1:00 - 3:00 pm)
Ypsilanti District Library, 5577 Whittaker Rd, Ypsilanti, MI
Great Wall China Adoption
Free workshop for prospective adoptive parents and others seeking more information about adopting from China. Couples from ages 30 to 55 are eligible to adopt. A Great Wall China Adoption representative who has just completed her adoption will be presenting. For further information or to reserve a place at the workshop, please contact Kim Bakos at (269) 429-6292 or by e-mail at kimberbakos@yahoo.com.

For local listings, regional seminars, and many other adoption events, visit AdoptionCalendar.com.

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