1. ANNOUNCEMENT

WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO KNOW ABOUT PARENTING?
What do you consider frustrating about parenting? What do you love most about parenting? What current situations are you dealing with in your home? Talk it over with Adoption Forums Parenting Expert, Nancy Nicolazzo. Nancy has over 30 years of experience and has taught hundreds of parenting classes. Her children are in their 20's and living independently. Ask her questions like: 'What parenting skills help children mature into fine adults?' Ask what you would like to know about parenting. Parents are busy; they need help fast. Post at http://forums.adoption.com/f501.html. Our children are valuable. Let's share how to love them each and every day!

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2. NEW ARTICLES

The views expressed by the authors are solely their own, and for which the authors are responsible. These views do not necessarily represent the views of Adoption Week e-Magazine.

Encouragement and Caution - new article by Linda S. Cusick
We raced downstairs and got on the computer and using several search engines looked for the name, an unusual Italian surname that made the search much easier. We found several people, but none the right age. It suddenly dawned on both my son and I that we should search for her little brother, also named in the paperwork I had gotten. As a male, his name was not likely to have changed, and his first name was as unique as their last name. http://e-magazine.adoption.com/article.php?articleid=356

It Is Never Too Late - new article contributed by Marge Walz
I have now located my father and have talked to him a few times. He is 82 years old, and his wife has passed away. He hadn't told his family about me until this past Sunday. I just had a call from my younger brother. He left a message on my work phone last night. I just called him, but he is at work until this evening. His wife said that they were all home on Sunday, Sept 28th when he told them they had a sister. She said they were quite surprised but are happy that he told them. http://e-magazine.adoption.com/article.php?articleid=348

The Adoption Option - new article contributed by Jorene Lynne Suber
I met my adoption attorney through the Crisis Pregnancy Center in Simi Valley, Ca. She turned out to be "My Angel". She has a family of her own and was there for me night or day, and we still keep in touch. She loves her work and really cares about the birthmothers and their babies. It was very hard for me to give her up, as I always dreamed of having a baby girl to raise and love, but God stepped in, and this little miracle named Coleen Desiree Lacey, was a gift to the couple that suffered so much emotional heartbreak upon trying to conceive another child. They were in the delivery room at the time of her birth, and the husband cut her cord. http://e-magazine.adoption.com/article.php?articleid=349

It Sounds Right, But Is It the Right Thing? - new article contributed by Courtney Frey
Using policy to excuse your behaviors or justify your fears is not acceptable. If you ever have to ask for an opinion, remember that what you will get in return is just that; opinion. You will always know, if you listen carefully, what the right thing for you to do is. Dont deny it based on what reads right. Dont manipulate it because you are afraid. The only true course in the lives of our adoptions is that of truth and courage. Believe it or not, its a lot easier to deal with the truth of an issue now than to deal with the aftermath of a lie in the end. http://e-magazine.adoption.com/article.php?articleid=357

Read these articles at http://e-magazine.adoption.com, and submit your adoption-related articles to editor@adoptionmedia.com for publication in Adoption Week e-Magazine and Adoption.com.

By submitting content, you represent that you have the rights to this content and that you give Adoption.com and Adoption Week the right to reprint this content on the internet, via e-mail, and in print form.

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3. ADOPTION NEWS

Adopt, But Don't Turn Ming into a Kylie (Australia)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.smh.com.au/articles/2003/10/22/1066631507546.html

Woman Seeks Child Given up 41 Years Ago (IA)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.qctimes.com/internal.php?story_id=1019362&t=Local+News&c=2,1019362

Washington Couple Seeks Child through 'Dr. Phil' TV Show (IL)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.pjstar.com/news/local/b142etap045.html

Woman Fosters Hope in Many Children (NJ)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.zwire.com/site/news.cfm?newsid=10398933&BRD=1918&PAG=461&dept_id=506868&rfi=6

MB Baby Remains in Hospital (SC)
http://www.adoption.com/includes/frame.php?url=http://www.myrtlebeachonline.com/mld/sunnews/news/local/7081924.htm

If any of the links to the news articles do not work, visit http://www.adoption.com/news for a list of headlines.

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4. ADOPTION LAW & POLICY NEWS

October 23, 2003

WEEKLY NEWS SUMMARY

ADOPTIONS NEW GEOGRAPHY; CHANGES IN GLOBAL RULES MAKE PROCESS EVEN TOUGHER, COSTLIER; BOLIVIA, BRAZIL MAY OPEN UP - by Jeff Opdyke
Last month, the State Department proposed new regulations related to overseas adoptions. The new regulations are consistent with the aims of the Hague Convention on Inter-country Adoption Treaty expected to be implemented internationally a year from now. The Treaty is intended to make the overseas adoption process more consistent, by requiring a central adoption authority in each participating country, as well as requiring more financial disclosures from adoption agencies involved. With new regulations in place, countries that previously barred U.S. adoptions (Bolivia, Brazil, Slovakia) are expected to allow adoptions by U.S. residents. However, there are concerns that the Hague Treaty will cause declines in overseas adoptions involving countries with non-centralized social systems, due to their inability to comply with the new standards.
The Wall Street Journal, Tuesday, October 14, 2003 Personal Journal Section
Note: The reporter of this article, Jeff Opdyke, is conducting an online discussion related to overseas adoption and his own personal experience at WSJ.com/Discussion.
http://discussions.wsj.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=wsjvoices&nav=messages&msg=2981

CANADA NOT DOING ENOUGH TO OPEN ADOPTION RECORDS, U.N. SAYS - by Canadian Press
A U.N. Committee on the Rights of a Child produced a report draft on October 3, 2003 noting that Canadian provincial governments are not heeding the U.N. Charter provision related to a childs right to know his or her biological parents. Nova Scotia, among five other provinces have closed records. To attempt contact, a Nova Scotian adoptee or birth-parent must use the government as an intermediary to determine willingness of the other party to reunify.
The Globe and Mail Tuesday, October 14, 2003 National Breaking News
http://www.globeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20031013.wadopt1013/BNStory/National/?query=adoption

FLORIDA OVERHAUL OF ADOPTION LAWS GIVES MARRIED COUPLES, SINGLES EQUAL FOOTING - by Maya Bell
The Department of Children and Families overhauled the administrative rules related to adoption law, and finalized the rules in April 2003. The rule changes received praise from gay-rights activists and also triggered formal challenges from area lawyers. The rule governing the Department of Children and Families administrative hearing process has removed an outlet for appeal typically used by foster/adoptive parents initially turned down in their petition for adoption. In addition, the adoption rule for specification of a mother/father family preference has been removed from the stated rules, officially availing single-parent families to foster kids in need of adoption.
The Orlando Sentinel Saturday October 11, 2003
http://www.centredaily.com/mld/centredaily/news/6991623.htm

MICHIGAN: ADOPTION FIGHT DESCRIBED IN HOUSE - by Chris Andrews
As a part of a series of hearings related to adoption law in Michigan, the House Family and Childrens Services Committee heard a troubling story involving a cross-county adoption. To address gaps in communication between counties in the case of foster care adoption, the committee is considering suggestions related to adoption petitions. Suggestions included the following: if the child abuse or neglect occurred in a particular county, the adoption petition should be filed in the same county. Additionally, adoption petitions should be considered by one judge, and participation of childs court-appointed attorney in adoption hearings should mandatory.
Lansing State Journal Thursday October 16, 2003
http://www.lsj.com/news/capitol/031016_adoption_1b-2b.htmll

IRISH ADOPTION GROUPS DISCUSS NEW GOVERNMENT LEGISLATION
New legislation proposed in Ireland includes a provision that discourages adopted people from contacting biological parents, with a potential punishment of jail. Discussions on deletion of this provision occur between adoption groups and officials on Friday and Saturday, October 17-18, 2003.
Irish Examiner Friday, October 17, 2003
http://www.examiner.ie/breaking/2003/10/17/story117667.html

Credit: National Center for Adoption Law & Policy
Link: http://www.law.capital.edu/adoption

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5. ADOPTION BOOK CLUB

IF ONLY I HAD A GREEN NOSE
Just like Punchinello, we all want to fit in. But at times that may mean we either have to look and act like others, or risk being rejected. So let this wonderful tale help you remember two things: that you were made unique for a reason, and that there is one who will always help you be you--wonderfully you.

For more information on this book, visit http://adoptionshop.com/cgi-bin/products/CRO00008.html.

Find 1,400+ other adoption products at AdoptionShop.com.

To share your favorite adoption book with others, join the Adoption Book Club on AdoptionLists.com at http://adoptionlists.com/index.php?action=lists&listname=adoptionbookclub.

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6. MEET NEW HOPEFUL ADOPTIVE PARENTS

Outdated material has been removed. Please visit ParentProfiles.com.

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Adoption is music to our ears...now it can be for you, too. Adoption.com's new adoption CD, "Adoption...The Songs You Love", is dedicated to everyone who has been touched by adoption in one way or another. ORDER YOUR CD! http://adoptionshop.com/cgi-bin/products/ADP00022.html



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7. SUCCESSFUL ADOPTION

This is our second successful adoption in 3 years. In both instances we were contacted by birthmothers who had seen our profile on Adoption.com. Our first adoption happened within 8 months, and our second happened within 12 months. Thank you.

Jerry & Mary

If you are hoping to adopt, visit http://profiles.adoption.com today to start building your online profile.

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8. FEATURED WAITING CHILD

Jason is a handsome young man with a dazzling smile. Like most teens his age, he enjoys music, peers and sports. Jason needs a supportive and structured family to guide him in the right direction and help control his anger. He is presently residing in a juvenile program and is progressing well. Jason would like to maintain contact with his birth siblings and has strong birth family connections.

http://photolisting.adoption.com is a free community service of Adoption.com featuring more than 1,800 children awaiting loving, permanent homes. Add your agency's waiting children to the most popular adoption website, and help them find loving homes faster. E-mail exchange@adoptablekids.com for info.

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9. ADOPTION GEM

10. ADOPTION BUZZ

Birthfamily Post Relinquishment: Healing, Recovery, and Success: - Question for the Birth Mom's/Dad's or Family
http://forums.adoption.com/t119135.html

Special Needs Support: - Raising A Child with A Disability
http://forums.adoption.com/t120539.html

What Has Helped You The Most In Your Reunion Experience?: - How Did I Ever Make It through the Reunion???
http://forums.adoption.com/t108581.html

Australia and New Zealand Adoption: - Open Adoption in Australia
http://forums.adoption.com/t36795.html

Infertility: - Male Infertility
http://forums.adoption.com/t98525.html

Becoming Foster Parents : - Fostering with Younger Children Already in the Home...
http://forums.adoption.com/t119510.html

If any of the links above do not work, visit Adoption.com for direct links to these discussions.

For more online adoption discussions, visit http://www.AdoptionForums.com.

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11. ATTACHMENT & BONDING ISSUES

12. ADOPTION SITE SPOTLIGHT

This week, our adoption spotlight is shining on: AdoptionFun.com.

If you want to have fun, be entertained, or learn, visit AdoptionFun.com. Find links to all the fun resources provided by the Adoption.com community.

For a list of our favorite adoption websites, visit AdoptionSites.com.

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13. ADOPTION DESTINATION

InternationalAdoption.org is the internet's authoritative destination for international adoption. You will find fact sheets, adoption information, travel information, culture and heritage, maps, weather, books, currency exchange rates, periodicals, news and much more for dozens of different countries with active international adoption programs.

This week, the country of focus is Bulgaria.

Bulgaria earned its independence from the Ottoman Empire in 1878, but having fought on the losing side in both World Wars, it fell within the Soviet sphere of influence and became a People's Republic in 1946. Communist domination ended in 1990. Today, reforms and democratization keep Bulgaria on a path toward eventual integration into NATO and the EU.


To learn more about Bulgaria's government, geography, and communication information, or its history, visit Bulgaria.Adoption.com.

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14. JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT

THE LADY

I am a foster mom in Arizona. At one point I had a foster daughter who was three years old. During her stay with me, I had three infants - two of which came and went. Well, once in conversation with an obviously pregnant women, my foster daughter was asked, "Do you know where babies come from?"

Well, my foster daughter, being a bright child, thought about it for a moment and said, "Yes, the lady brings them!"

Contributed by: Kathryn Snyder

E-mail your humorous story or joke to editor@adoptionmedia.com.

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15. FEATURED ADOPTION PROFESSIONAL

Marilyn Cross, LCSW
San Francisco, CA
Phone: (415) 621-4805
Contact: Marilyn Cross
marilynrcrosslcsw@yahoo.com

I am a licensed therapist who specializes in the unique issues faced by adoptive families and children. I have an understanding of the entire process and the issues that may arise throughout it.

Services: Counselors Therapists Support

For more information on Marilyn Cross, LCSW, visit http://directory.adoption.com/cross/.

Find adoption agencies, attorneys and other adoption professionals at http://directory.adoption.com.

To see your ad here, visit http://adoptiondirectory.com/upgrade.php.

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16. ADOPTIONSHOP.COM PICK

Dedicated to the One I Love CD by Linda Ronstadt - Only $11.95
Adoptive mom and hit recording star Linda Ronstadt dedicates this moving CD to her adopted child. This recording is exclusively aimed at parents of newborns, transforming boomer standards into light-as-air lullabies. This CD will change the way you hear these songs compared to their original recordings. Linda's singing is angelic and enchanting.

For more information and ordering instructions, visit http://adoptionshop.com/cgi-bin/products/ADP00056.html.

For more adoption products, visit http://adoptionshop.com.

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17. SOUND COUNSEL

This section is not intended for search advise. It is meant to be an advise column for people with questions concerning their feelings, interested in the opinion of someone who can relate. The views expressed by this author is solely his own, and for which the author is responsible. The content within this column is not to be considered as professional medical, legal or behavioral health information to be used in diagnosis, treatment or actions that would require the consultation and/or services of a licensed, certified or accredited professional. These views do not necessarily represent the views of Adoption Week e-Magazine.

Question:

My husband and I had a baby before we got married (37 years ago). His mother would not sign for us to get married and keeping a baby out of wedlock back then was not even anything I could consider. We married a year later and have two more children (36 & 32).

Up until now my husband did not want me to look for our first child as it would have meant telling our other two. I think he felt that they would blame him for not marrying me at the time. I now feel he can accept us telling them. I want so badly to find our son and let our children know they have a brother.

Do you have any experience in how siblings react to this kind of news? The one thing that I am afraid of is that the adoptive parents have not told him that he is adoptive and he would never look for us.

Thanks.

DP

Answer:

DP:

First, I want to start by saying everyone is different. I cannot predict how your children will react to this news. I assume they may be a little hurt that you and your husband felt that they could not handle it until now. However, at the same time, I would hope your children respect your decision and support you. I cannot guarantee either, unfortunately.

You asked about my experience in this type of situation, and I have seen it go both ways. I have seen kids much younger than yours be 100% supportive and just as excited about finding out more about their sibling(s). I have also seen children the same age as yours who were very hurt and couldn't understand their parent's position.

My advise, however, would be to tell them. They are adults and do not need to be sheltered from adult issues. It is my hope that they will support you, and be as excited and anxious about it as you are.

Ultimately, it is yours and your husband's decision. I don't think you did anything wrong by placing your first child for adoption. I would hope that your children would respect that decision as well.

I wish you luck,

DB

Question:

Hi,

I would like to see articles about adoptees who are adults and have issues with being adopted...what it actually feels like to be relinquished by one's mother "for their own good and betterment".

All my life it didn't seem being adopted bothered me - I almost felt special. And yet, here I am at 48 years old in therapy and the main crux of my problems seem to be fear of abandonment, which stems from initially being adopted. Unbeknownst to me at the time of finding her, my therapist specializes in adoptees. She tells me that over and over and over her clients who were adopted have one common thread - fear of abandonment...

We never hear the downside of being adopted. It is always put across as something wonderful - a sacrifice and sense of martyrdom from the birth mother, and almost a sense that one should feel "grateful" from the adoptive parents. What about those of us most affected? - the adoptee. I cannot be alone in this. My sister, who is not my biological sister, but also adopted, suffers from the same sense of loss, as does my adult niece who is also adopted and a young woman I know who was adopted into the absolute perfect adoptive family.

I'm tired of hearing all the positive things - yes - there were many, but the core issue of adoptees is a sense of loss and abandonment that can never be filled.

Thanks,

S.C.

Answer:

Thanks for your note S.C. I am going to take a step back from what I normally do, and address your concerns about the "negative side" of adoption.

I agree with you in that adoptees are sometimes lost in the shuffle, so to speak. People sometimes forgot (or just don't know) the pain that almost every adoptee I know goes through. There are the feelings of abandonment, co-dependency, depression and just a completely overwhelming idea that you are not "whole" and something is missing. I have not met very many (I could count them on one hand) adoptees who are not in some way affected negatively by adoption.

Now, all of that being said, what's the alternative? Abortion? You would have a difficult time "feeling" anything if you were aborted. How about being raised in a family situation that was less than adequate? Would you still be that great person that I am sure you are without your adoptive parents and what they have done for you?

You have to take everything each day at a time. Be thankful you are even here on this earth, as your biological parents could have chosen a path that would not allow you to be alive. Be thankful for your adoptive parents whose lives you have brightened, and who have helped build you into the person you are. Be optimistic about your future and those awesome people in your life, from your adoptive family to your friends. Where would those people be if you were not adopted?

Thinking about these things keeps me from dwelling too much on the fact that I want desperately to know where I came from. I want to know my biological parents. I want to thank them. But, at the same time, I couldn't imagine being anywhere than where I am now, and I thank them most for that. It has been, ultimately, for my "own good and betterment". I hope that when you truly sit down and think about it, the same goes for you.

I understand your position, and I too wish that people acknowledged these issues more.

DB


BIO:

The author is a 21-year-old adoptee who wants to help those affiliated with the adoption community. Although the author does not have a medical degree, etc., he is simply extending a listening ear and the perspective of a young adult who is involved in the adoption triad.

His opinions are not necessarily those of Adoption.com and are provided voluntarily on a weekly basis.

To submit your questions, e-mail adoptionquestions2003@yahoo.com

In order for your questions/comments to be answered in the next week's issue, questions need to be submitted before 12 noon each Wednesday.

In addition, please remember to keep your questions appropriate for Adoption Week e-Magazine; otherwise, they will not be answered or included in the next week's edition.

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18. SPEAK OUT

Hello all: Just wanted to share - I had a son on September 16, 1979, when I was fifteen, and gave him up for adoption. My life was never the same. I loved him and thought of him every day for the next 21 years. I did go on to to marry and have four children. On my adopted son's 21st b-day, I began a search for him. One and a half years later, I found him!!! It has been a truly wonderful journey. He now lives with me and his sister and brothers. We all love each other and are amazed at how alike we all are. Just needed to share. Thanks, Andrea

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I'm 42 years old and so far have not been able to find out anything about my birth family. Does anyone know if there are any adoptee meetings or get-togeathers in MN? My email address is e6karen@msn.com. Thanks.

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Hi, we live in Colorado and have 11 biological children. It has been discouraging and disappointing to find out that by law, within Colorado, we cannot adopt because of the number of children living at home. If anyone has any information on guardianship and if that might be an option, could you please respond. Thank you Lori

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I am a 30-year-old African American female that was born April 10, 1973 in New Orleansor Metarie, Louisiana. I was born at Southern Baptist Hospital and adopted through Volunteers of America. I have been searching for my birth family for over 12 yrs. I have recently come across some information and hopefully someone out there can help me. I belive my birthmother's name is Jacqueline Scott. She was 18 yrs old when I was born. Jacqueline had another daughter that was 15-18 months older than myself. Jacqueline's father was a Baptist minister. My birthfather was 19 and in the military. If any of this sounds familiar, or if you have any suggestions on finding any of my birth family, please email me at 73Nickii@yahoo.com. Any information will be greatly appreciated.

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Hi: I'm still searching for my grandson. He was born on 9/23/1980 in Portland, OR, at the Portland Adventist Hospital. The adoption was a private one handled by the bmother's doctor, Dr. Clell Clifford. The bfather is Curtis White (my son) and the bmother is Lynda Bloomquist. I was hoping "Andrew" (was not named at birth, but this is what we called him) would look for his bfamily on his 23rd birthday on 9/23. I hope to one day be able to tell my grandson about his father. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. You can contact me at Reansbeans@cs.com or Renie222@hotmail.com. Good luck to all who are searching. - Irene Gardner

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I am a male born 10/31/68 in Ohio and adopted in December in Cuyahoga county. The only information I have says that my father was 21 and my mom was 19. They possibly married shortly after. I also have an uncle that is 3 years older than I am. I really would like the opportunity to meet these folks and thank them for the life I was given. If you are able to help, please reply to jillebeann@yahoo.com or contact the Cuyahoga County Courthouse. There is a letter and picture waiting there.

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Hi, I am searching for any info that may help me locate my sister who was adopted at birth. The only info I have is that she was born in the early part of '72. Her birth name was Belinda Dawn Peppers. Our mother was 26 years old and was trying to raise seven other children; her name was Carolyn Joy Graham-Peppers. Belinda was born at the St. Vincents Hospital in Little Rock, and Mom had been staying at The Florence Critenden Home there. I would love to find my sister and share the much needed medical information she should have. Mom passed away last year, and I promised her I would find her "baby". My name is Lillie, and my email address is mslillie@cox.net. Any info would be helpful. Thank you.

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Hi, I'm searching for my b-mom. I was born in Austin, TX on 3/7/1968. My birth name was Kimberlin Jackson. I was told my b-mom was a teen, and due to ear surgery as a child, the left side of her face was paralyzed. Please, if anyone has info that could help me, my e-mail is cherimayfield@hotmail.com

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I am searching for my birthmother and birthfather. I was born on 02/07/74 at St. Anthony Hospital in Louisville, KY. The physician was Dr. Michael Hamilton. My birth father was in foster care at the time of my birth. He was born in 1955 and was a Baptist with blond hair and brown eyes. No information of his natural parents because of the foster placement. My birth mother was born in 1957 and was Catholic. She was the oldest of 8: 4 girls and 4 boys. She was in the 11th grade, had brown hair, green eyes, and good health. My maternal birth grandfather was born in 1931 and was an insurance salesman. My maternal grandmother was born in 1935 and employed as a teacher's aide. If you have any information on these people, please e-mail me heather7425@yahoo.com. - Heather

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On July 7, 1982, at the age of 16, I gave birth to a baby girl at Rapid City Regional Hospital in Rapid City, South Dakota. Her birth name was April Joy Holden, & she was given up at the age of 3 months. All of my legal records of her adoption were destroyed in a flooding following a hurricane. I am currently trying to get the seal on the records broken & the records replaced, but so far, to no avail. She is now 21 & may be living in California. If anyone knows anything about her, please contact me at: Mandy414@praize.com.

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19. ADOPTION POETRY

HOW CAN WE SAY THANK YOU

We wish to set today aside
and thank God for our son,
He's made our lives complete at last
our hearts beat now as one.

We wish to thank the couple
who have set our child free,
Who have chosen us to be the best
parents we could be.

We promised them a lifetime
of love to give their son,
We'll never ever let them down
for he's our precious one.

We also made a promise
but this one to our son,
We promise him a future filled
with love, laughter and fun.

We're a family now forever
and life is simply grand
The three of us will walk through life
together hand in hand...

Copywrite 2003
Dianne R. Forlenzo

I wrote this poem & dedicate it to our son's wonderful birthparents. We are forever grateful for their gift!! xoxo

For more adoption poetry, visit http://poetry.adoption.com.

Submit your adoption poetry to editor@adoptionmedia.com.

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20. ADOPTION CALENDAR

CHAT SCHEDULE:

Sunday:
Reunion Support Group Chat with Loretta in the Search and Reunion room at 6 pm Pacific, 7 pm Mountain, 8 pm Central, 9 pm Eastern

Monday:
Join Dr. Art Becker-Weidman in the hosted chat room at 2 pm Pacific, 3 pm Mountain, 4 pm Central, 5 pm Eastern and ask him questions on attachment therapy and treating children with trauma-attachment disorders.

Adoptee Chat with Thea in the hosted chat room at 6 pm Pacific, 7 pm Mountain, 8 pm Central, 9 pm Eastern. Thea is a caring adoptee that has recently reunited with her birthmother.

Tuesday:
Birth mom chat with Angelwings. Angel is a birthmom and adoptee. Her chat is held in the BirthMother.chat room at 4 pm Pacific, 5 pm Mountain, 6 pm Central, 7 pm Eastern

Birth father's General Support Chat in the hosted chat room with adoptee and birthfather, Terry. All are invited at 6 pm Pacific, 7 pm Mountain, 8 pm central, 9 pm Eastern

Attachment Disorder: A Journey of Hope Chat with Parent Nancy Geoghegan; educational weekly chat at 7 pm Pacific, 8 pm Mountain, 9 pm Central, 10 pm Eastern

Wednesday:
Pre- and adoptive parent chat with JJ and friends - Help as you begin the adoption process. Hosted in Adoptive Parents chat room at 5 pm Pacific, 6 pm Mountain, 7 pm Central, 8 pm Eastern.

Parenting issues for adoptive/foster parents with Dimasmom in FosterCare chat room at 6 pm Pacific, 7 pm Mountain, 8 pm Central, 9 pm Eastern.

Join an informative chat on the ups and downs of reunion hosted by Sabra since 1997. Talk out your next step and share your experiences in search and reunion at 7 pm Pacific, 8 pm Mountain, 9 pm Central, 10 pm Eastern in the Search and Reunion chat room.

Thursday:
Evening with Colleen Buckner, search expert, in Search and Reunion chat room at 6 pm Pacific, 7 pm Mountain, 8 pm Central, 9 pm Eastern.

Friday:
If you are having a "limbo" type experience with your reunion, come and talk it over with those who've "been there-done that" themselves. Join co-hosting birth mothers, April and Judy, in the Search and Reunion room on Fridays: 5 pm Pacific, 6 pm Mountain, 7 pm Central, 8 pm Eastern.

Saturday:
Older child adoption/foster care behavioral issues with Jerry in FosterCare chat room at 6 pm Pacific, 7 pm Mountain, 8 pm Central, 9 pm Eastern.

For a listing of times and descriptions and to attend scheduled chats, or join the live chat, visit http://forums.adoption.com/chat.

ADOPTION EVENTS:

LAKE COUNTY GENERAL MEETING
October 28 (7:30 pm - 9:30 pm) Deepwood North Apartments, Rental Office/Community Room, and 8100 Deepwood Blvd. (off Rt. 84) Mentor, Ohio; Follow signs to rental office
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend.

WORKSHOP FOR NON-RESIDENT INDIAN (NRI) FAMILIES CONSIDERING ADOPTION
October 30 (6:00 pm - 8:00 pm)
38 Edge Hill Road, Waltham, MA Wide
Horizons For Children
Free workshop for couples of Indian heritage and others seeking more information about adopting from India. Couples up to age 40 may adopt an infant; up to age 50 for older children. A family who has just completed their adoption will speak about their experience. For further information, or to reserve a place at the workshop, please contact Homai Dalal Schmidt at (781) 419-0323 or by e-mail at hschmidt@whfc.org.

NATIONAL ADOPTION MONTH LUNCHEON
November 1 (12:30 pm - 3:30 pm)
Fiorillo’s Italian Ristorante
Silicon Valley Concerned United Birthparents (CUB)
Co-sponsors: SearchFinders of California, American Adoption Congress
Speaker: Nancy Verrier Author of "The Primal Wound" Californians touched by adoption and all adoption professionals are invited. Each attendee will receive an autographed copy of Nancy's eagerly anticipated new book on adoptee healing being published in Oct. Tickets: $45/person prior to Oct. 15, $50/person after Oct. 16 and before cut-off of October 28 (advance reservation only; no ticket sales at door). Reservations with check or money order should be mailed to: Delayn Curtis, 721 Cedar Dr., Watsonville, CA 95076. For additional info, e-mail aliciakla@earthlink.net.

CHILDREN SEEKING FAMILIES : A Look at International Adoption
November 3 (7:30 pm - 8:30 pm)
Women & Children First Bookstore, 5233 N. Clark Street, Chicago, IL, (773) 769-9299
Finally Family Adoption Agency, NFP
Presenter(s): Sharon Steckler Slotky, Executive Director - Finally Family Adoption Agency, along with other FFAA staff and families that have adopted internationally
A free, informational seminar. RSVP: Registration is required, please call (312)939-9399, or visit for more information at http://www.finallyfamily.org.

BIRTHPARENT SUPPORT MEETING - Topic: Rejection
November 5 (6:30 pm - 8:30 pm)
Adoption Network Cleveland, 1667 East 40th St. Suite B-1, Cleveland, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Birthparents who have placed a child for adoption. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

WHAT FAMILY TREE? - School Issues and the Adopted Child
November 5 (6:00 pm - 9:00 pm)
Cleveland Christian Home, 1700 Dennison Ave., Rm. 202, Cleveland
Adoption Network Cleveland
Presenter: Angie Avery
RSVP: Free Workshop. Foster parent training certificates and social work/counselor CEUs provided. Registration is required, please call (216)881-7511. Registration closes 3 day prior to workshop. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

ROCKY RIVER GENERAL MEETING - Topic: Identity
November 6 (7:30 pm - 9:30 pm)
West Shore Unitarian Church, 20401 Hilliard Blvd., Rocky River, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

ETHICAL PRACTICE IN ADOPTION
November 7 (9:00 am - 12:00 pm or 1:00 pm - 4:00 pm)
Lutheran Hospital, 1730 W 25th St., Cleveland
Adoption Network Cleveland
Presenter: Maureen Heffernan
RSVP: Free Workshop. Foster parent training certificates and social work/counselor CEUs provided. Registration is required, please call (216)881-7511. *Note: Attention Social Workers, The State of Ohio Counselor and Social Worker Board now requires a minimum of 3 CEUs of Ethics training for all social worker license renewals in 2004 and beyond, and this course meets the new requirements. For more information, visit http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

ONE-DAY INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION SEMINAR
November 8 (9:30 am - 4:30 pm)
Trinity Baptist Church, 801 N. Peters Street, Norman, OK
Dillon International, Inc.
International adoption can be a wonderful experience. Meet adoptive families, their children, and staff members of Dillon International, Inc. The cost is $60.00 for a married couple and $50.00 for a single adult applicant. The fee covers lunch and seminar materials. Facilities do not provide for childcare. To register, email bev@dillonadopt.com, call (918) 749-4600, or visit http://www.dillonadopt.com/Seminars%20and%20Workshops.htm.

ADOPTION INFORMATIONAL WORKSHOP
November 8 (3:00 - 5:00 pm)
Rockford City Hall, 7 S Monroe St., Rockford, MI
Great Wall of China Adoption An informational workshop with our agency director, Snow Wu. Looking for couples aged 30-55 willing to open their hearts and homes to a Chinese orphan. Children of all ages and both genders are available. For more information, or to reserve a spot at the workshop, please contact Kim Bakos, GWCA Satellite Representative, at (269) 429-6292 or kimberbakos@yahoo.com. See what a difference you can make in the life of a child!

PARENTING WITH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
November 8 (9:00 am 4:00 pm)
1836 Euclid Ave., Suite 500, Cleveland
Adoption Network Cleveland
Presenter: Kim Langley
RSVP: Free Workshop. Foster parent training certificates and social work/counselor CEUs provided. Registration is required, please call (216)881-7511. Registration closes 3 day prior to workshop. For more information, visit http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

INFORMATION SESSION - Considering adoption from China?
November 8 (11:00 am - 1:00 pm)
Boeing Conference Center in Huntington Beach
Great Wall China Adoption
This event is free, but seating is limited. If you would like to attend, or for more information or directions, e-mail Susanna at gwcadopt@earthlink.net

ABC'S OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION
November 11 (6:00 pm - 8:00 pm)
First United Methodist Church at 6701 JFK Blvd, North Little Rock, AR
Dillon International, Inc.
During this free informational meeting, attendees will be given an overview of the process of international adoption, individual country requirements and adoption costs. In addition, they will be given information on waiting children from South Korea, China, India, Ukraine, Vietnam, Haiti, and Guatemala. Please call Kimberly Alls at (501) 791-9300, email DillonArkansas@dillonadopt.com, or visit http://www.dillonadopt.com/Seminars%20and%20Workshops.htm for details.

AKRON GENERAL MEETING
November 12 (7:30 pm - 9:30 pm)
Akron General Health and Wellness Center, 4125 Medina Road, Akron, Ohio.
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

ABC'S OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION
November 13 (7:00 pm - 8:30 pm)
Dillon Missouri Office, One First Missouri Center, Suite 115, St. Louis, MO
Dillon International, Inc.
During this free informational meeting, attendees will be given an overview of the process of international adoption, individual country requirements and adoption costs. In addition, they will be given information on waiting children from South Korea, China, India, Ukraine, Vietnam, Haiti, and Guatemala. Please call Kimberly Alls at (314) 576-4100, email DillonMissouri@dillonadopt.com, or visit http://www.dillonadopt.com/Seminars%20and%20Workshops.htm for details.

SHARED CONNECTIONS: BRINGINGING BIRTHMOMS AND ADOPTIVE MOMS TOGETHER
November 13th - 16th
Higgins Lake, Michigan
Open Adoption Insight
Shared Connections is a conference/retreat that strives to help birthmothers and adoptive mothers understand each other by discussing the similarities as well as the differences in our experiences. For more information go to: http://openadoptioninsight.org/shared_connections.htm.

DOWNTOWN CLEVELAND GENERAL MEETING
November 14 [New Time 12:00 pm - 2:00 pm (Bring lunch if you wish)]
Adoption Network Cleveland, 1667 East 40th St. Suite B-1, Cleveland, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION SEMINAR
November 15 (9:30 am - 4:30 pm)
First United Methodist Church, 313 N. Center, Dallas, TX
Dillon International, Inc.
International adoption can be a wonderful experience. Meet adoptive families, their children, and staff members of Dillon International, Inc. The cost is $60.00 for a married couple and $50.00 for a single adult applicant. The fee covers lunch and seminar materials. Facilities do not provide for childcare. To register, email bev@dillonadopt.com, call (918) 749-4600, or visit http://www.dillonadopt.com/Seminars%20and%20Workshops.htm.

FREE SEMINAR
November 15 (10:00 am - 12:00 pm)
First Baptist Church, 10002 N. 56th Street, Temple Terrace, FL 33617
Great Wall China Adoption
For more information and to register, please contact Susan at sfremer@tampabay.rr.com or call (352) 666-4853.

ABC'S OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION
November 15 (10:00 am - 12:00 pm)
Yarborough Library, 2200 Hancock Drive, Austin, TX
Dillon International, Inc.
During this free informational meeting, attendees will be given an overview of the process of international adoption, individual country requirements and adoption costs. In addition, they will be given information on waiting children from South Korea, China, India, Ukraine, Vietnam, Haiti, and Guatemala. Please call Kimberly Alls at (512) 467-9177 or (512) 266-0526, email pam_matthews@hotmail.com, or visit http://www.dillonadopt.com/Seminars%20and%20Workshops.htm for details.

THE LIFELONG IMPACT OF ADOPTION - Lecture & discussion by Marlou Russell, Ph.D.
November 15 (1:00 pm - 4:00 pm)
Santa Monica College, Madison Campus, 1310 11th Street, Room #106, Santa Monica CA 90401
This class is for adult adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, those considering adoption, therapists, attorneys, the media, and anyone interested in the emotional and psychological aspects of adoption. $35 per person. Free parking on campus. For more information, contact Marlou Russell, Ph.D. (310) 829-1438, email marlourussell@hotmail.com, or visit http://www.marlourussellphd.com.

ANC ANNUAL MEETING & VOLUNTEER RECOGNITION PARTY
November 20 (6:45 pm 9:15 pm)
Adoption Network Cleveland, 1667 East 40th St. Suite B-1, Cleveland, Ohio
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Free for volunteers and their guest, $3.00 per person for others. Open to the public. Please, RSVP by November 16th. For more information contact Adoption Network Cleveland (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

KIDS AT HEART 2003
November 23 (1:00 pm 4:00 pm)
Puck Building, New York City, NY
National Council For Adoption
A day of family fun to kick off National Adoption Week. http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

Marvelous circus performers, including a ringmaster, acrobat, juggler, and clowns will be featured. Children can play a variety of carnival and arcade games, have their faces painted, make their own ice cream sundaes, or participate in the auction and raffle. They will also receive "goody bags" filled with toys and treats. Many children and families who will have just finalized their adoptions the day before, as part of National Adoption Day, will join us. Please contact Megan Lott at (703) 299-6633 ext. 104 for ticket information and additional details, or go to http://www.adoptioncouncil.org.

LAKE COUNTY GENERAL MEETING - Topic: Control
November 25 (7:30 pm 9:30 pm)
Deepwood North Apartments, Rental Office/Community Room, and 8100 Deepwood Blvd. (off Rt. 84) Mentor, Ohio. Follow signs to rental office.
Adoption Network Cleveland
Who can attend: Adult adoptees, birthparents, siblings, adoptive parents, prospective adoptive parents, professionals and anyone who is interested in lifelong adoption issues. No registration or membership is required to attend. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

ANC FUNDRAISER: SHARED SALES AT TEN THOUSAND VILLAGES
November 30 (12:00 pm - 5:00 pm)
Ten Thousand Villages, 19321 Detroit Rd., Rocky River
Adoption Network Cleveland
Please, come out and help support Adoption Network Cleveland. For more information, contact Adoption Network Cleveland at (216) 881-7511 or on the web at http://www.AdoptionNetwork.org.

For local listings, regional seminars, and many other adoption events, visit AdoptionCalendar.com.

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