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September 29, 2009
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  1. ANNOUNCEMENTS
    - The Adoption.com Reunion Registry Upgrade
    - AdoptionBlogs.com has a new look
    - Are You Ready for National Adoption Awareness Month?
  2. FEATURED ADOPTION BLOGS
  3. HIGHLIGHTED ARTICLES
  4. ADOPTION NEWS
  5. FEATURED WAITING CHILDREN
  6. MEET NEW HOPEFUL ADOPTIVE PARENTS
  7. ADOPTION GEM - inspirational thought
  8. ADOPTION BUZZ - message board discussions
  9. JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT - family friendly weekly humor
  10. FEATURED ADOPTION PROFESSIONAL
  11. ADOPTION POETRY
  12. SPEAK OUT - contributions from our readers

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  1. Announcements  
 

Are You Ready for National Adoption Awareness Month?
November is almost here and that means the Presidential Proclamation announcing November as National Adoption Awareness Month is just around the corner. Learn more about the history of National Adoption Awareness Month and plan your celebrations now. Don't forget to add your event to the Adoption.com Events Calendar.

The Adoption.com Reunion Registry Upgrade
Are you searching for someone? Are you interested in putting your information out there so that you can be found? The Adoption.com Reuniuon Registry recently underwent an upgrade that makes searching easier. Check out the changes today and don't forget to update your Registry Profile. You can also give us feedback on your Registry experience by completing the User Survey today.

AdoptionBlogs.com has a new look
Find the same great support, advice and information, using a software that's become an industry standard. AdoptionBlogs.com is now powered by Wordpress! Come check out the changes, meet our new bloggers and participate in the great discussions taking place now.

 
  2. Featured Adoption Blogs  
 
Those who have contributed to the content of this section are solely responsible for the opinions stated therein, which do not necessarily represent the views of Adoption Week e-Magazine, Adoption Media, L.L.C., or any of its sponsors, advertisers or collaborators.

Preparing the Relatives
I have written a lot about preparing your immediate family and your home for the adoption of an older child. This of course should be the priority in your preparations, but it is also important to prepare your extended family: Grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, close friends. Even if your adoption news has been celebrated and welcome in your extended family, there are still some basic knowledge tidbits that should be discussed BEFORE your child or children come home. There are several ways to go about this education process. You can decide what works best with your family. more

Pulling Out of a Paperwork Slump
Yesterday, I had one of those days--frantic, frenzied, basically just chaotic. What spurred this spiral of insanity? The mere thought of our adoption "to do" list. Having adopted internationally once before, the whole process is not entirely foreign to me. The second time around, I feel much more organized, much more aware of the progression of steps in the process. I swore I wouldn't allow myself to get frantically caught up in the list; instead, I've visualized myself calmly checking various boxes next to the items completed in a timely fashion. Unfortunately, I'm somewhere between those two categories and admittedly, I'm in a bit of an emotional slump as a result. more

Adopting with a Disability
I have Complex Regional Pain Syndrome. Discovered during the American Civil War, the pain receptors in my knee are always firing at high volume - at 11, for you Spinal Tap fans. In 2005, when my husband and I signed with our agency, I wasn't allowed to walk very far, not that could if I wanted to. Even sitting caused pain. I couldn't wear certain materials or sleep with normal sheets, as they felt like steel wool against my skin. I was worried, "What person is going to choose a mother who hurts all the time?" I was lucky and blessed that, by the end of September 2005, I had found medication that was finally making me better. more

Come join the discussions on AdoptionBlogs.com with our Bloggers: Jenna Hatfield | Mandy W. | Robyn C. | Karen M. | Courtney O.

  3. Highlighted Articles  
 
The authors of these articles are solely responsible for their content. The views expressed therein do not necessarily represent the views of Adoption Week e-Magazine, Adoption Media, L.L.C., or any of its sponsors, advertisers or collaborators.

Caring for Your African American or Biracial Child's Hair - Mahisha Dellinger
Over the years I've read, seen, and experienced unbelievable acts of ignorance regarding ethnic hair care. It is my attempt to provide a few basic tips and tricks so you will avoid common pitfalls.more

Blended Family/Kids in Distress: What to Do? - Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
It is safe to assume that most parents will enter into a new relationship post separation/divorce, many resulting in a combination of children. The issue then becomes how to manage the new relationship in view of the kids and how to manage the adjustment process. When children appear significantly distressed in a newly blended family, the other natural parent may take them to counseling as a means to investigate the distress or help them cope. Unfortunately however while this provides a sense that something is being done, often little is accomplished.more

Raising Kids Transracially - Ann Freeman
When we chose to adopt interracially, we carefully considered what parenting children of color would mean for us and our future kids. We wanted to provide our children with natural, ongoing contact with people with whom they shared cultural identity. We wanted our kids to be in an environment where friends, neighbors and other community members included many people of their ethnicity...more

Read the entire text of these articles at e-Magazine.adoption.com, and submit your adoption-related articles for possible publication in this newsletter. All submissions will be subject to the applicable terms, restrictions and conditions of Adoption Media, L.L.C.

 
  4. Adoption News  
 

Separated as babies, Alexandria man contacted by twin sister -- 76 years later - The Town Talk - www.thetowntalk.com
Fred Pilder has never been much for writing letters or sending e-mails. The 77-year-old Alexandria man says there is nothing better than good, old-fashioned one-on-one communication, either face to face or at least on the phone.read more and discuss

Mom Can End Stepfather's Visits - The New York Daily News - www.nydailynews.com
Regina Palumbo adopted a daughter and in the process changed thousands of lives. Palumbo welcomed daughter Alison home 10 years ago from an orphanage in Nanjing, China. Palumbo also read about - and saw - the substandard medical care many Chinese orphans received in those facilities....read more and discuss

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  5. Featured Waiting Children  
 
Melissa from Louisiana
Melissa's loves an array of animal; dogs, monkeys, parrots and snakes. She enjoys spending time with just about any type of animal! Like most teen girls, Melissa also enjoys spending time with friends and shopping. She is in the 8th grade, in a structured educational setting...more
Josiah from Alabama
Josiah "JoJo" born in November 2000 is in the 2nd grade (08-09 school year). He enjoys playing sports, spending time with his brothers and drawing. He is very talkative and loves to talk about playing with cars and sports. He is working on being respectful to adults as well as respecting himself...more

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Add your agency’s international waiting children to the Adoption.com International Photolisting, and help them find loving homes faster... more
 
  6. Meet New Hopeful Adoptive Parents  
 
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Rob & Caroline (NC)
Hi! We are a fun and loving couple with so much love to share with a child. We eagerly await the adventures of parenthood with its joys and blessings. Please explore our profile to learn more about us. We have such respect and admiration for you!more

Letter | About | Favorites | Album | Journal | Contact
Nate & Emily (KY)
We are a hopeful family of three looking for another little one to share our lives with. We are excited to adopt and canít wait to be a happy family of four (or more). Come check us out...more

Letter | About | Favorites | Album | Journal | Contact

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  7. Adoption Gem  
 

“The cure for crime is not the electric chair, but the high chair.”
-- J. Edgar Hoover

Share your story, thought, or quote for possible publication in this newsletter. All submissions will be subject to the applicable terms, restrictions and conditions of Adoption Media, L.L.C.
 
  8. Adoption Buzz  
 

Special Needs Adoption - DH not sure about adopting child with special needs
DH and I met with a possible match today. He is 3.5 years old and has developmental delays in attention and has a dx of mood disorder and taking 2 medications. He really took to my husband and I was impressed in how well my husband interacting with him. However, dh is unsure about adopting him. The child did show some impulsive behaviors and I know that he is going to be a handful and I am really going to need dh to be an active participant in raising this child...more

Adoptee Support - Good vs bad adoptees - what is the definition?
I keep seeing good adoptee = must have had a good adoption experience vs. bad or angry adoptee = must have had a bad adoption experience threads.

So are there any people who would like to weigh in and define what they feel makes a person a good or bad adoptee? Is it their upbringing, their personality, their questions, whether they search or don't search, call their parents daily vs weekly, their own views, just what makes a person either a "good adoptee" or "bad adoptee"?..more


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  9. Just for the Fun of It  
 

Blind Little Johnny

Little Johnny and his friend Billy were on their very first train ride with Billy's mother. A vendor came down the corridor selling a candy bar that neither had ever seen before.

Billy's mom bought each one of them a bar.

Little Johnny eagerly tore open the wrapper and bit a bit off into his mouth just as the train went into a tunnel. When the train emerged from the tunnel, he looked across at Billy and said: "I wouldn't eat that if I were you."

"Why not?" asked Billy.

Little Johnny replied, "I took one bite and went blind for half a minute."

Share your family-appropriate humorous story or joke for possible publication in this newsletter. All submissions will be subject to the applicable terms, restrictions and conditions of Adoption Media, L.L.C.

 
  10. Featured Adoption Professional  
 
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  11. Adoption Poetry  
 

Expressing Feelings

Seems one event
Set the pace for my life
You see, I was a Mother
Before I was anyone's wife

Not of a child
I could kiss, hug and hold
Just keep in my heart
And treasure like gold

Days seemed like weeks
Months were like years
Thought I would drown
In an ocean of tears

Child of my youth
Always in my dreams
They said I'd forget
I didn't, it seems

Spending my life
Searching in faces
Everywhere I went
All kinds of places

Trying to fill
That void in my heart
Wanting to search
Not knowing where to start

© Lezli Adams

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  12. Speak Out  
 
This section is not intended to provide advice regarding specific search situations. It is intended to discuss general search techniques and resources that may be consulted or utilized by readers at their own discretion. If readers are contacted by individuals that seek to provide search assistance, they should not assume that any searcher is a qualified professional or is indorsed by the Adoption.com web site or Adoption Media, L.L.C. If users decide to provide information or payments to anyone, they do so at their own risk. The views contained in this section do not necessarily represent the views of Adoption Media, L.L.C., or any of its sponsors, advertisers or collaborators.

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I was born August 14, 1961 in Denver, CO. I was given up for adoption through Catholic Charities. Due to a change in the Colorado Law, I was able to get a copy of my original birth certificate. I now know my birth parents names. I also know that when I turned 18, my b-mother searched for me, but since I was not searching at that time, no connection was made. It's 30 years later, and I would very much like to meet my b-family, for my sake as well as my 18 year old son's sake, as well as for any medical issues, and just to know where I come from, etc. My name at birth was listed as "Baby Girl Bernhardt". Can anyone help with advice, words of wisdom, anything?


Hello, I have a sister that was born in 1962. I believe she was born March 24 but it could have been in April. I grew up an only child and wished for an older sister. Little did I know I actually had one. We are a year and a half apart and I have missed her dearly. What I do know is that she was born in Broward County, Fort Lauderdale FL., at Holy Cross Hospital. The adoption was through Catholic Charities in Dade County. My Mother/her birthmother and I have placed a letter in her file with Catholic Charities with the hope that my sister will contact them as I have not been able to squeeze any information out of them. I would love nothing better than to know she has lived a wonderful life. There are some health issues she should know about but nothing life threatening, thank goodness. If she is reading this and wondering what she should do...take a chance, life is short and neither one of us had any choice about any of this until now....my email, beanheads@mac.com. I can't wait!


I have searched for my birth family for many, many years. Along the way I have registered, joined an adoption group and continued to try and search on my own. With the help of others I was able to verify info, but still no find. About two weeks ago I found yet another site online and registered again and also searched their database, nothing. About three days after I registered I starting receiving emails from volunteer search angels. One in particular, from Orlando, Fl continued to ask me questions and asked for my non id info, which I sent her. The next day she had contact info for me. That day I spoke to a cousin who verified I had the right family and then an uncle who forwarded my number to my mother. My mother called that same day, the next day I heard from a sister. It is unbelievable, numbing to say the least. I met my sister a few days later, I have a large family who have welcomed me with open arms, what a change after being an only child, my adoptive parents are both deceased. My mother and stepfather will be traveling from Florida next week, she is just as excited as me. We still have a sister, born not long after me to find, she was born in March of 1948. This is for all of you still searching to let you know that even though it might seem impossible, don't ever give up. I have been truly Blessed. Arline Kunkel


To Barbi, age 64 ~ regarding your post wanting to find your birth mother. Have you used your original birth certificate to actually locate your birth mother?? Do you need some help?? Not a professional "searcher" but might be able to help. If you would like some help, you can e-mail me at johnsgirl925@gmail.com. Please put adoption help in the subject line.

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